Learning to Say No

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 I am a people pleaser -which is odd because I don't really like people!  I know tons of people who say they don't like other people - but I really do not.  I don't trust most people, and for good reason.  Yet most times I'll still say "yes" when asked to do something.   But I'm learning to stand on my own two feet.

Last weekend I helped with the High School's Erg-A-Thon because the head coach asked me to.   I actually like him as a person, even though he screwed up my son's senior year.  I do NOT like the assistant coach who is actually just a dad of another rower who graduated with my son.   I'll keep the why's to myself - but the head coach had wanted to take me to dinner tonight to thank me for helping last weekend, and also thank me for donating an erg.   I was going to go - because I'm going to need his help learning to row on the water this spring.  When I talked to him Monday - he never said he was inviting anyone else.  

Todays text was to me AND the asst coach.  I thought long and hard, and finally sent him a private text saying no.  One of the hardest texts I've ever sent - I explained that I was not going to spend an evening pretending I like someone - when I don't.   I'm too old for dumb shit.   Haven't heard back yet - I'm sure there will be some kickback - but in the end, I'm going to stay true to myself.   

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